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Can a thin person have body image struggles? Can a thin person be at war with their self-image? Can a thin person hate to look in the mirror?


And does that suck?


But the difference between these negative feelings and fatphobia is this: The only person worrying about whether or not I’m meeting beauty standards is me.

And that’s not the same for fat folk.

When you’re not thin, other people on the beach actually do take offense. When you’re not thin, people really do think that you shouldn’t be in a bathing suit. When you’re not thin, people really do make your body their moral obligation.

And while your internal struggle is real and significant, the point is: You might hate your body, but society doesn’t.

That’s thin privilege.
Let’s Talk About Thin Privilege — Everyday Feminism (via samanticshift)









What. Is. Her. Name.

Thanks to a follower for finding this: Her name is Venus Green.

From this article:

In July 2009, Green’s grandson, Tallie, was shot and wounded. Tallie said he was shot at a convenience store, but police insisted it happened inside Green’s house and that the shooter was either Tallie or Green.

"Police kept questioning him. They wouldn’t let the ambulance attendant treat him," Green said. "So, I got up and said, ‘Sir, would you please let the attendants treat him? He’s in pain,’" Green said.

Green said the officer said to her, “Oh, you did it, come on, let’s go inside. I’ll prove where that blood is. You did it.”

Police wanted to go the basement, where Tallie lived, but Green refused on the basis that the police did not have a warrant.

"I said, ‘No, you don’t have a warrant. You don’t go down in my house like that. He wasn’t shot in here.’" Green said the officer replied, "I’m going to find that gun. I’m going to prove that you did it."

A struggle ensued between a male officer and Green.

"He dragged me, threw me across the chair, put handcuffs on me and just started calling me the ‘b’ name. He ridiculed me," Green said.

An officer went into the basement and Green locked him inside.

"She locked the door, the basement door. She basically took matters into her own hands," Nilson said.

"This was my private home, and if I latched it, that was my prerogative because he had no search warrant to go in my basement. So, I had to right to latch it," Green said.

Green said she suffered a separated shoulder in the scuffle, and she sued the Police Department for assault and violations of her rights.

"I was once a block watcher, department head of a high school. (I’ve) been around education for over 50 years. (I’m a) law-abiding citizen, I’ve never been arrested, I paid my taxes, owned my home, my husband died 34 years ago. (I) raised my son and I have been brutally abused," Green said. "I feel like the Police Department needs to go back to school."

This woman is a straight up damn hero. Fuck that officer and fuck our police system that empowers arrogant assholes to think they can surpass the law.

reblogging again for the full story


Anonymous asked:

Hi ! First of all, I like your blog and the positive vibes :). I have a question about body positive media in general. If size is not supposed to matter (weight, boobs, everything) and if we're supposed to be confident with themselves despite all our shapes and sizes, why do women still think for example that penis size matters ? why is boys height still a criteria for woman at the time a woman can't be judge for her weight ? My point is that body positivity is too much "woman-oriented".


I have answered this question a lot of times so I’m only gonna answer this one question about it, and any follow-ups are gonna get deleted (sorry, I don’t mean to be rude, I just spend a lot of time talking about this & I’m a busy girl).

-It’s important to note that men are not the only ones who have penises. Penis positivity can be a woman’s body positive issue because some women have penises. Some folks who aren’t women or men have penises. 

-There actually is a push in body positive communities to embrace penises regardless of size

-(Though I do think we should note, just because it’s true, that women who have sex with people with penises are rarely discussing the aesthetics of penises when they talk about what size they prefer, they’re talking about the sexual pleasure they have derived from having those penises inside them. We can break that down further about the implications it has on the people whose bodies they’re discussing, but women aren’t talking about asethetics when they talk about penis size).

-Height and weight aren’t really comparable things so if we’re talking about height, let’s talk about height. (We’re dealing in kind of heteronormative terms here but) plenty of men also have height requirements for the women they date, just as some women have height requirements for the men they date. I’ve had men not be interested in me because I am extremely short and I’m ok with that. I think personal preference when it comes to attraction is an ok thing. I think what we have to examine is a) how is our culture (and the prejudices in our culture) influencing our preferences and b) are we exerting those preferences in ways that are harmful to others. 

-But if you wanna start body positivity for very short dudes or very tall dudes, start it.

-I personally have a hard time when people tell me that body positivity is “too woman-oriented” for reasons I’ve explained time and time again, but I will break them down once more real fast.

-Because we live in a patriarchal society where women’s worth is heavily tied to their physical appearance in a way men’s simply isn’t, women need extra tools (aka body positivity) to cope. That does not mean I think men do not need or should not have body positivity. It’s just why I think it’s ok that a lot of body positivity is geared towards women.

-Another reason so much of body positivity is geared towards women is because we are creating it for ourselves. Body positivity grew strongly out of both feminism and womanism. And it is primarily women running the blogs and writing the articles and books and making the videos and all the other stuff that makes up what people think of as the body positive movement. We’re making stuff for ourselves and for one another. Men totally have the power to do the same thing (in fact, some already have). In fact, men have even more power and privilege in society to make space for male body positivity, and I encourage them to do so!

-But while women are also badly hurting concerning body image, I think it’s unfair to come to women creating spaces for women and say “focus on men!” Especially when it’s not like men are more likely to listen to us than they are to men anyway (half the time when I speak on social issues, men are telling me to shut up, even if I’m saying stuff that could help them too!). Body positivity should and can exist for men. I hope they make more of it.

-And I’m happy to reblog it & signal boost it when I see it. It’s just that I and most of the women in the body pos movement have a limited amount of time and energy to put forth. Most of us are putting it into creating stuff for our sisters.


Anonymous asked:

Hi!! I love your blog sooo much. I have a question though. I am always trying to tell people that size doesn't matter but I'm always faced with the idea that you should take care of your body and be healthy. How would you justify body confidence when faced with this idea?


-People should be able to feel confident and beautiful whether or not they’re healthy.

-When people say otherwise they are reinforcing ableist ideas. People who are disabled or have chronic illness or even mental illnesses will pretty much never fit into the mainstream concept of “healthy.”

-Just ‘cause I know some people out there are like “omg what she’s wrong” I’m gonna repeat that people should be able to feel confident and beautiful whether or not they’re healthy. That’s just a human right in my opinion and a basic tenant of body positivity.

-People often aren’t actually concerend about health when they make statements like that. My ex-partner used to point out to people who would say that I shouldn’t be confident/happy/feel beautiful because I’m fat, that he didn’t eat healthy food, constantly binged on candy, never exercised, and smoked (all statements not true of me) but was regularly assumed to be healthy because he’s thin. But you won’t find a lot of people saying thin folks shouldn’t love the way they look because they eat junk food/have high blood pressure/regularly get colds.

-So maybe (not necessarily aloud even but to yourself) interpret and question what people actually have an issue with. Do they really care about everyone’s health? Or do they care that people are fat?

-If they really really do care about people’s health, they ought to care about people’s mental health as well. Depression & suicide are hugely serious issues tied to people’s sense of self. Anorexia is one of the biggest killers of teenage girls & young women (it impacts folks of other genders as well). Self-hate is a disease in my opinion. It hurts people, mentally, spiritually, and physically (your body functions worse when your emotional state is bad, and you’re even less likely to care for your body, if you hate it).

-Self-love is one of the best things anyone can do for themselves. And if someone really cares about others’ well-being they should want them to have that.


TW: Transmisogyny, murder - Aniya Parker & the epidemic of violence against trans women of color
October 7, 2014

Mourners in and around Los Angeles are remembering Aniya Parker, a 47-year-old transgender woman who was violently killed in East Hollywood last week.

Parker was fatally shot at 2:30 a.m. on Thursday during what police have reported as a robbery. Surveillance footage of Parker’s death has circulated widely across the Internet, showing two to four suspects surrounding her before one punches her and then shoots her in the head as she tries to flee.

Many observers aren’t buying the police’s assertion that Parker’s killing was the result of a robbery gone wrong. “This was not a robbery, in fact, they left the purse behind,” Mary Zeiser of Hollywood told ABC7 news. “This is a cold-blooded hate crime and this type of violence needs to end.”

Less than 48 hours after her death, Parker’s supporters held a memorial in her honor. Her friends and family are now trying to raise $15,000 for funeral expenses, which include transporting her body back to her home state of Arkansas. 

Parker’s death is another example of what seems like nothing short of an epidemic of violence targeting transgender women of color. She’s is the eighth transgender woman of color to be killed since the beginning of June, according to the Anti-Violence Project. She’s also the second to be killed in Los Angeles in recent months; 28-year-old Zoraida Reyes’s body was found in a parking lot behind an Orange County Dairy Queen on June 12th. Transgender women of color face disproportionately higher rates of hate violence than other members of the LGBT community, according to researchers. In fact, a 2013 report from the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs found that LGBT people of color were nearly twice as likely to experience physical violence than their white counterparts. Transgender women made up 67 percent of anti-LGBT homicides in 2013, according to the Anti-Violence Project.


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